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4 Best Crime-Related Podcasts


I'm a HUGE podcast fan. I'm constantly listening to a podcast or audiobook. It can probably be classified as an addiction. I've written posts before about my favorite podcasts for believers, but I also have some other crime favorites that I'm dying to tell you all about. If you're even remotely into crime-related topics, you'll love these recommendations!

1. SWORD AND SCALE. This podcast isn't for the faint of heart. It's all about real crime and dives deep into the minds of the perpetrators and victims. It's tagline includes "...proving that the worst monsters are very real." I have heard some pretty gruesome stories in my job, but some of these episodes have had me in tears they are so terrible. Like, ugly crying. I know, sounds lovely right?!

2. UNDISCLOSED. If you loved Serial and Adnan's story, you'll love Undisclosed. They just started their second season and they're off to a running start. I was a huge fan of Serial but fell off in season two. Luckily, Undisclosed has me completely sucked into the second season. I love the different perspectives the hosts bring to the table and how deep they dig into each crime.

3. TRUTH AND JUSTICE.  Bob Ruff. He's a rock star. This podcast is similar to Undisclosed but is completely listener driven. This means that listeners are heavily involved in the investigations of wrongful convictions. Bob covers Adnan's story as well as a host of others. The first few episodes aren't the best, but this podcast has really evolved with time.

4. REAL CRIME PROFILE.  One of the hosts of this podcast, Jim Clemente, has helped out Bob Ruff with Undisclosed. Jim is a retired FBI Supervisory Special Agent/Profiler and former Prosecutor for the New York City Law Department, and he is amazing. He's joined by Laura Richards who is a criminal behavior analyst (Criminal Minds, anyone?!). This podcast digs into stories such as the OJ  Simpson case and is definitely worth a listen. I hear they have a new series on CBS coming out that revisits the JonBenet Ramsey case.

Some others I enjoy but didn't quite make the list include Actual Innocence, Serial, and Criminal.

What are your favorite podcasts?
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Why Don't We Talk About Trying to Conceive?


Trying to Conceive (TTC)

Before we started trying to conceive (TTC) I thought I would be super chill about it all. I thought I would just hang out for 6-12 months and wait for it to "happen." Those of you that have tried to conceive probably know how impossible this sounds. Especially if you're Type A like I am. However, because we as a culture fail to talk about TTC, I had no idea what I was in for. This resulted in an intense cycle of me feeling completely insane and being unable to focus on anything else. Every day felt grueling and Google got way too much of my attention. I'll let THIS article elaborate on all my feels.

There are numerous articles online about how to keep TCC a secret from your friends, family, and coworkers. We spend more time talking about keeping it a secret than being honest about what it's really like and supporting one another in the midst of it. For me, this resulted in feeling lonely and crazy. The more I talked to other women after our miscarriage, though, the more I realized that the feelings I had were not abnormal. Most women feel a little (or a lot) crazy when they're TTC, whether they've been trying to for a few months or a few years.

So, why don't we talk about trying to conceive? Why is it such a taboo topic?

Some articles I've read suggest it's because our self worth is tied up in our bodies and our inability to conceive therefore somehow reflects our lack of worth, which creates fear about sharing our struggle with others. As if we are failing at one of our most basic human functions. I hope we are all shaking our heads at how ridiculous this is. Our worth is NOT in our ability to have a child. Most of us know that. Yet, we still fail to talk about it.

I stumbled across THIS post recently. It's a male's perspective on TCC. I applaud him (seriously, give it a read). Men can feel the weight of this too, yet... silence. When was the last time you heard a male talk about trying to conceive? Uhm... probably close to never. It's not just the ladies that keep this a secret, it's everyone.

The fact that we don't talk about TTC (or miscarriage) just breeds shame and heartache among women (and men!). We MUST start talking about this topic and supporting each other. It's normal to feel crazy while TTC, it's in our nature. We have to be brave and put ourselves out there. It's bound to be a stressful time and you never know how your vulnerability might help someone that's feeling alone.

I'm really curious to hear other's thoughts on this topic because, honestly, I have heard some downright valid reasons for keeping TTC a secret. I'd love to hear your thoughts below.

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Farewell, Summer


Dear Summer,

I can't believe you're almost over. I'm usually quite sad to see you go, but this year I couldn't be more ready for you to go away.  Far away. This summer has been full of ups and downs. Ups like visiting New Orleans for the first time, celebrating two years of marriage, welcoming new babies into our community, and finding out we were pregnant. But the downs, man, these have been in a whole new league. My comprehensive exams, endless house/car repairs, personal struggles, family drama, and our miscarriage have seriously taken a toll on my mind and body.

I usually love summer because it means my program slows down. I can work from home here and there and I can focus more on self-care. Maybe even throw a vacation in there for good measure. Our town slows down when all the college students leave and we usually get to spend more time downtown and exploring. Sadly, this summer has been full of non-stop studying in my dungeon of an office, way too many hours in my lab, and not nearly enough self-care. It's so unlike me to prioritize school over things like self-care, but comprehensive exams broke me.

I'm so ready for the cooler weather that fall brings. I'm really looking forward to backyard BBQs, running outside without feeling like I'm dying/drowning in humidity, and the predictability of my school schedule. I'm looking forward to time passing for the sake of healing and for getting back to some sense of normality in our life.

This really wasn't our season and I'm praying that better seasons are ahead for us. This fall I'm really looking forward to some of the races I'm running, getting some more things checked off my school to-do list, and getting my weekends back so that I can spend time with my husband. It's bound to be a better season, right?

Farewell, summer. Until next year.

Are you looking forward to summer ending or begging it to stay around a little longer?

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