5.21.2014

Wedding Wednesday: Things You Should Never Say to a Bride


Now, I like to think I'm not a bridezilla. However, in the process of planning a wedding people have said some pretty interesting things to me. Many of which I have been slightly offended by. Probably because planning a wedding is HARD and it can make anyone sensitive. So, for the sake of future brides, here are some things you should never say to a bride:

1. That's so selfish of you (or both of you). Well, last time I checked, this was one of the only events in our lives that is planned around us as a couple. Therefore, I think we reserve the right to make the best decisions for us, even if they might seem selfish to the outsider. Also, it's impossible to please everyone.

2. X, Y, and Z are SO expensive. Yes, they are. However, that is also a part of attending a wedding. I also promise that this wedding has been more expensive for us. It's alright if you feel something is expensive, or want to opt out due to the cost, but please don't tell the bride that. It makes them feel awful.

3. You're eating that? Aren't you afraid you won't fit in your dress? Now, no one has said this to me, but I have heard it said before to some of the other brides in my life. Just don't.

4. Is it possible my invite got lost in the mail? No, it's not.

5. You're getting married?! Congratulations! How old are you? Uhhhh. Cue the, "Wow you're really young," comment. Yes, I know, I know.

6. Are you sure you want to do/have that at your wedding? Yes, yes I am sure and that is why I am doing it.

7. We could just get married/engaged the day/weekend of your wedding! Everyone will already be in one place! ABSOLUTELY NOT. NO NO NO. This one might turn me into bridezilla.

8. What is your wedding date again? What is your website again? Where do I fly into again? etc. Well, I created a lovely wedding website with all of that information on it so I would not have to be bombarded by questions in the days leading up to the wedding, but I would love to reiterate myself just for you. Unnecessary stress for the bride y'all! Plus our website took forever hahaha.

9. You only get married once! Hopefully... UHHHH this is totally acceptable if I know you well and understand your sarcasm, otherwise hearing this makes me want to hurt you. Joking about divorce is always a light topic when someone is getting married....

10. That's.... unique. And by unique you obviously mean perfect I am sure.

This post really makes me seem like a diva. Oops. Maybe I am bridezilla after all...

And for a few more things you should never say, check out this awesome BuzzFeed article complete with funny photos.


Treasure Tromp
NC Belle in Boots

26 comments :

  1. Well I for one think it's incredibly selfish of you guys to be getting married so young (hopefully only once). I mean wedding gifts are so expensive, and how am I supposed to know where to fly into? Did my invite get lost in the mail? Your wedding plans sound rather.... Unique.. But nonetheless I think it will be a great time for gar and I to renew our vows. I'm just hoping you can fit in your dress with all the food you've been eating, which brings up a good point.... You really should offer special food to fit my diet. I only eat cheese.

    Do you hate me yet? Lol. In all honesty, I've been around for this wedding planning, and I'm SERiOUSLY excited.

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  2. Hahahaha you really made sure to hit all your bases!! I am excited too!!

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  3. Hahaha, perfect! And all so true. #3 better not happen to me!

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  4. If it does just personally punch that person. Do give you permission hahaha

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  5. haha I love it. AMEN! Wedding planning is hard and people just don't know how to be sensitive and encouraging. It's a real problem. It's your and your fiancé's (soon to be husband!!!!!!) big day. No one elses. Don't think you have to answer to anyone else, this day is about your love for one another. People need a little lesson now and again.

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  6. OH vey, the things people think they can say to brides. Luckily, I had a very smooth process and everyone was happy and encouraging. To my face, I guess hahaha. The only two that really had an opinion was my mom and dad and since they were paying for it, I really couldn't argue too much.

    But, I can say I had an amazing experience.

    I can't get over #7 and #9.

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  7. For the most part I have also had a pleasant experience, but some things just stick with you! 7 and 9 actually happened to me hahaha

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  8. SO hard! But I am so excited and in the end I am marrying my best friend soooo that's all I care about.

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  9. PEOPLE. I tried to stay away from them during planning. The worst was always the phone call to my fiancée from my MIL that started, "Did you SEEEEEE this before? Oh you did? And YOU WERE OKAY WITH THAT?" Ugh.

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  10. Oh mannnn... Yeah, I have been there too.

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  11. OH yeah...I heard many of these :-/ I don't think it's being a bridezilla...it's that people need to show a little respect. #1 - we should be saying that to our crazy family members and friends because it's not their day! And yes...definitely heard #4. I think I told you that story :-p

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  12. HAHAHA so horrible. I still can't believe that. Oh wedding planning...

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  13. Haha! Loved this one. And honestly, bridezilla behavior is totally acceptable if it is in response to people who say these sorts of things. ;)

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  14. HAHA! Thanks for the validation. Some people...

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  15. No it's not horrible!!! People are mean!

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  16. YES YES YES! I love this! All of these are so true.

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  17. Hahaha thanks girl! Hopefully you haven't had to experience any of them yet!

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  18. Bahahahahahaha! I'm rolling. These are ALL so true!! If I heard it once, I heard it ten thousand times that we were so young. Yes. We know. And the invites being lost in the mail. Gosh! I had someone show up to our wedding ASSUMING their invite got lost. Thankfully we didn't have a caterer to submit a head count to or anything, but goodness! Totally not okay! hahaha.

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  19. Oh my gosh hahahaha that's horrible

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  20. I luckily didn't get too many rude comments before our wedding, but I've been astounded at the gumption some people have now that I'm married. Two pet peeves tie for being the worst: asking us when we're going to have children and refusing to call me by my last name, which I did NOT change thankyouverymuch. It's one thing if someone doesn't know I didn't change my name, but some people think their wishes to call me Mrs. Daniel Fleck are more important than my clearly-stated comments that my name is the same.

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  21. Oh I can so relate to that. I changed my last name but to something that is really hard to pronounce compared to my maiden name and I spend lots of time getting frustrated at people's jokes about it hahaha

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  22. Yeah, my first name is unusual, and people think they're SO original with all the water filter jokes. But I know they're trying to make small talk or even apologize for mispronouncing my name. (It's bree-tuh, completely unlike the water filter).

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  23. Thank you for linking to this in your reintroduction post....because this just made my day. SO PERFECT. I've heard just about all of these. A personal favorite (read: not) of mine was when people would ask me, just weeks before the wedding, "Can I bring a date?" Did I invite a date? Then no. That really made me feel like a bridezilla--but really, when you're trying to keep costs down, inviting everyone and their friends/parents/random dates gets expensive!

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  24. UGH I KNOW. People do not understand. That totally happened to me too. I'm so glad you found this post- it's one of my favorites!!

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