6.26.2014

On being a Wife


I'm totally one of those girls that laughed at those other girls for being all "OMGGGG I just love being a wifey," or "being a wife is the best," etc., etc. Before I met M I was pretty cool just dating the same person for the rest of my life. I was also pretty convinced that since we have been living together for the past year, we were basically already married and not a whole lot was going to change except we would share the same last name, I'd have a fat ring on my finger, and bed time would be a little more enjoyable (sorry family)...

However, I must say, that things DO feel different. I cannot put my finger on it exactly but it's just such a feeling of comfort, like this is where I was always supposed to be. M is my safe place, and now that he is my husband, I feel like I'm more full and complete. This might sound silly to some of you, and I cannot completely explain it, but I know that this marriage is right. Being a wife is wonderful.

Now, I know some of you are thinking we are probably still in the honeymoon phase, but I have always felt this way about M. Now, it's just more intensified and I have this peace about the fact that he's my husband forever. The love and support we saw from our friends and family over the weekend blew me away. I could not believe the nice things people had to say about our relationship, because to us it's just who we are and what we do.

I cannot wait to see where our marriage takes us in the coming years, thank you all for your love and support!

Treasure Tromp

19 comments :

  1. I completely understand what you mean. Once you say your vows something shifts. It's different than dating or even living together.

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  2. Hey lady, keep that feeling for the rest of your life! It is INCREDIBLE what the word WIFE or MARRIAGE can mean in a relationship. A good friend of mine that has been married for almost ten years gave me the best advice after I was married. I was talking about how happy and bright eyed I was a new bride, in the honeymoon stage and she said "It can STAY like that if you nurture your relationship" and I took that to heart.

    Marriage is one the greatest gifts God gave us and I'm so thankful for my husband!

    Congrats again, lady!

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  3. Congratulations! :D We're newlyweds, too... and like you, I didn't feel like a lot would change. I also cringed at the word "wifey" before the nuptials.... Now I have to say it's kind of grown on me. :-/ Funny how that works, huh?

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  4. YES, I totally did not expect it! I'm so looking forward to our study on Sunday, I've been getting back into it full force! How are you my friend?!

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  5. I keep telling M I just want to bottle it up forever! That such great advice, I will definitely keep that in mind! Thank you!!!!

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  6. Yay for newlyweds! Haha it has totally grown on me as well, too funny! At least I'm not alone

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  7. I couldn't agree more. I lived with my husband over a year before we married, and I thought nothing would change. I was wrong. I have never felt more secured, guarded and whole.

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  8. YES, that is so well said! I think it also helped to live together because we got past a lot of the silly little stuff you have to adjust to as newlyweds if you're living together for the first time too!

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  9. :) I smiled the whole way through this post because I KNOW!!! I didn't think it would feel that different being married to X, but it DID. I had butterflies for months after, anytime I'd think about us being married. And just weird things like hearing him say "wife" for the first time, and filing jointly on our taxes. ha! Spiritually it just felt... "complete" - I know what you're saying- it's hard to explain but it's a great feeling! So happy for you guys!

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  10. I'm so glad I'm not alone on the crazy train over here hahaha! Thank you!! I just want to keep this feeling forever!

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  11. I totally agree. It's something about that forever commitment and comfort that he'll never leave you :) I always felt like guys were going to leave me before and that feeling of insecurity is totally gone now.

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  12. I'm guilty of similar feelings as well and this is so much more comforting

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  13. I've been with my hubby for 8 years, married almost 3 of those 8 years together. And I am a totally obnoxious wifey who is proud of her marriage. I just love LOVE, so I guess that's why I'm so cheesy heheh

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  14. Maggie H JohnsonJune 26, 2014 at 7:27 PM

    Love love love this! Sometimes you just get in that sweet spot where it just feels right. Glad y'all are enjoying it!

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  15. I'd say 8 years is something to be cheesy about :)

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  16. Such a sweet post!!
    Cassie,
    I was nominated for a liebster award! In return, I'm nominating you! Click the link for all of the rules, can't wait!
    http://southernexpectationsx.blogspot.com/2014/06/liebster-award.html

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  17. Kimberley's QuestsJune 29, 2014 at 1:38 PM

    Love this post! We got married in April, so I'm going through many of the same feelings. I expected it would be the same as before, but there is just a greater feeling of contentment, I wasn't sure I could love him more than I already did but somehow I do. It's awesome!

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  18. Congrats to you!!!! YES it is so awesome

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