9.02.2014

Our Wedding: Vows

Framed wedding vows
M and I decided fairly early on that we wanted to write our own wedding vows. Now, I know this decision isn't for everyone, but we felt like it would make our ceremony that much more meaningful to us. The idea of making such personal, clear-cut promises to each other in front of our family and closest friends was appealing to us.

I also really want our vows to be something we can return to throughout our marriage. In times of goodness and in times of struggle. Since I often need tangible reminders of things, I knew I wanted to have our vows displayed somewhere in our home so that we would be reminded of our promises to each other and God daily. 

When my friend, Nina, started sharing her calligraphy on Instagram, I knew I HAD to have her calligraphy our vows for us. She graciously accepted and did an AMAZING job. My mother in law and I picked out the perfect frames to go with them, and we hung them in our bedroom above our bedside tables. 

I debated whether or not I would share the vows here. Part of me felt they were somewhat too personal, but the other part of me really loves the idea of sharing our promises to each other with you all. For accountability and encouragement. I also think it is a lovely way for you to get to know our hearts a little better. So.. here they are!

Framed wedding vows above bedside table

HIS
Cassie, our lives together are just beginning. Today, I willingly take on your triumphs, pains, struggles, successes, and joys. I willingly take on cleaning the cat litter so you don’t barf. I take on mowing the grass so your allergies don’t ruin your life. I take on digging jewelry out of our sink pipes and hair out of our drains. But more importantly, I will burden myself for your improvements and encouragement. The gifts and talents God has given you amaze me every day. I am truly the lucky one standing here today. Despite my best efforts to ruin your workouts with my butter and sugar filler baking, you remain the most beautiful human inside and out that I have ever met. God’s work in our lives is evident and while I can’t promise perfection, success, wealth, or a long life, I can promise love, support, and awkward introductions with new friends, because God has surely shown immeasurable favor to two broken souls. I vow to you to be my absolute best. Not because of anything that I am but because God’s love and mercy has allowed me to be. I love you and I strive to make that even more true each and every day of our lives together. 


 Framed wedding vows above bedside table

HERS
Matt, I loved you from the first time I realized I wanted to be a better person when you were around. And when I realized I knew who I was with you. You coming into my life has been one of God’s greatest demonstrations of His love for me- because I know He sent you to redeem me. And for that reason, I know you are my person. I also know that being with you is a privilege and not a right. And for that reason, I vow to love you the way that God loves me; with faithfulness, selflessness, trust, respect, and grace. I vow to pray for you, esteem you, encourage you, anticipate your needs, and oblige to you as I do Jesus. I even promise not to keep score- even if I’m totally winning. I vow to advocate for you, go the extra mile when I don’t feel like it, seek enjoyment in your interests, and most importantly, lay down my life for you; in seasons of scarcity and abundance. And the best part is I know that when I fall short, God will sustain us. And with this I, Cassie, take you, Matt, to be my husband- even if you love Beyonce and all the single ladies. 


Did you or do you plan to write your own vows when you got/get married? Why or why not?

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41 comments :

  1. These views are beautiful, and I LOVE the calligraphy! What a great idea. We didn't write our own vows because we thought it would be a little too stressful for us. I don't regret not doing them, but I think it's fun that other people do! Thanks for sharing :)

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  2. Thanks Amanda! Hey- to each their own right? ;)

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  3. I love this! Derek and I are writing our own vows as well. He was a little reluctant at first but after I explained my resoning, he came around to the idea. I never thought of having them framed though, great idea!

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  4. These are too cute. I love the combination of serious/official and less serious. And having them there to see every day is such a great idea!

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  5. So perfect!!!!! They look gorgeous in that spot!

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  6. love having these displayed in your home. very creative & romantic. we decided to not write our own vows...mostly because of nerves and tears :)

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  7. Roland and I are planning on writing our own vows. I agree it adds an extra personal touch to a promise you're making. It's a little adrenalin pinching though, to write a promise to you're soul mate and have to read it in front of everyone. Also, he's a better writer than I am, so that's always daunting. These are beautiful words, thanks for sharing!

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  8. Thanks! It can be a little intimidating but after just jotting down thoughts for a few months it started to come together nicely for me at least :) Good luck!!

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  9. Thanks Kate. We decided ahead of time that we would add some humor in! M is a much better writer than I! haha

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  10. Yessss! I love the romance of it, perfect word :) Haha I can COMPLETELY understand that reason! It was hard but I also got to practice them a bit so tears weren't as bad as I thought ;)

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  11. Totally! It is scary and intimidating and fun all at the same time! I was totally scared to share them with everyone, but you know what, everyone there (hopefully) wants to love and support you and they will be happy with whatever you choose to say to each other! as long as it's from your heart! M is TOTALLY a better writer than I am too hahaha I definitely think his are better, but hey that's ok!

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  12. Beautiful vows and beautifully displayed.

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  13. Thanks lady, I am so happy to finally have them up :)

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  14. Thanks Nina! I love that I was able to get them calligraphed :)

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  15. Those are beautiful! I love that idea. I have been wanting to do a typographic design of our vows and this totally inspired me!!

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  16. The calligraphy is beautiful! I really wanted to write our own vows, but Sam was against the idea. He thought he would be too emotional to actually read his vows.

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  17. aaaand I'm crying. What a beautiful way to keep them! X and I wrote our own vows (I'm so glad we did) and I have a DIY to type them on my typewriter, on pretty paper, and then frame them to put in our bedroom too. I think it's such a great idea to have them out, like a daily reminder of specific promises we've made to each other.

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  18. Thanks Madison, I'm so happy with how they turned out. You should go for it!!! :)

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  19. That's sweet! I think the more "generic" vows can still be meaningful and special too!

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  20. Awwwww. That would look soooo great! And YES. I need that reminder sometimes ;)

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  21. LOVE THIS!! Steve & I didn't write our own vows, although I wish we had. Now after just celebrating 10 years, it would be amazing to look back and see how we've lived them out and maybe what we need to update. :) Thank you for sharing a piece of your heart here. This is beautiful!

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  22. That's a lovely way to remember your vows. We definitely wrote our own (his in English, mine in German), but we haven't really done anything with them yet. Maybe for a gift in the future.

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  23. Oh thank you Amy! You could always write some now ;)

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  24. How cool! Yeah, I love the idea of just having them somewhere that serves as a good reminder!

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  25. We didn't write our own vows and I've always been happy with that decision....uuuuntil now! What a special way to keep those words nearby as you go throughout your married life. And I love that your vows were a mix of serious and silly. I'm sure that lightened the mood at the wedding. I've been to weddings where they write their own vows and by the end of saying them it was just awkward because of how serious it was. I love this idea!

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  26. Awww! Yeah we definitely aren't too serious but we didn't want to make a mockery out of it so we decided to mix the two. You could always write them to each other now as something fun :)

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  27. We actually talked about that in NYC...we just need to have that convo again! I love that you hung them by your bed...such a great reminder to begin and end each day with. :)

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  28. Yes! I agree. You're too sweet :) I hope you write them- they're so meaningful and we had fun writing ours!

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  29. I'm so glad you DID share! We wrote our own vows and I also had a little struggle sharing them, but decided to. It sincerely MADE the ceremony; we were so glad we did so!

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  30. Yes, that is exactly how we felt! Thanks for reading them :)

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  31. Your vows are absolutely amazing, and such a clear reflection of both of your personalities. Also, the calligraphy is pretty stellar! ;)

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  32. Awe, I loved this! We wrote our vows too..it's such a sweet thing to look back and read from time to time. Found you through Emily over at embergrey.com. Thank for sharing!

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  33. Emily was so sweet to share this! Thanks for stopping by :)

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  34. These are wonderful!! Also came across this through EmberGrey :) I loved the personal nature of these, the inside jokes, the deep faith in God that He will take care of your marriage. And I LOVE that you had them done in calligraphy - I did that once with a poem I wrote for my husband and it's one of the prettiest things on our wall. Having your marriage vows written and hung is just extra special and meaningful!

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  35. I love that you found me through Emily too, she's my favorite! It was so nice of her to share this! And YES I am so happy that you were able to see our commitment to God and our personalities too! Checking out your blog now :)

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  36. Such beautiful vows! The love between you shows in your pictures by the way you look at each other. I have been following your blog for a little while now. Your wedding pictures are beautiful, and what a beautiful bride you were (are).

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  37. Thank you so much, that means a lot. I'm so glad you commented! :)

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  38. These are beautiful, funny, and a perfect vow infront of God. I love that you shared these with us. The love you have between you is so evident of God's love. I love your idea of having them framed and hung as well. What a good reminder to see before laying your head to rest every night.

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  39. Thank you Kendra. I am so glad you liked them!

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