M and I decided fairly early on that we wanted to write our own wedding vows. Now, I know this decision isn't for everyone, but we felt like it would make our ceremony that much more meaningful to us. The idea of making such personal, clear-cut promises to each other in front of our family and closest friends was appealing to us.
I also really want our vows to be something we can return to throughout our marriage. In times of goodness and in times of struggle. Since I often need tangible reminders of things, I knew I wanted to have our vows displayed somewhere in our home so that we would be reminded of our promises to each other and God daily.
When my friend, Nina, started sharing her calligraphy on Instagram, I knew I HAD to have her calligraphy our vows for us. She graciously accepted and did an AMAZING job. My mother in law and I picked out the perfect frames to go with them, and we hung them in our bedroom above our bedside tables.
I debated whether or not I would share the vows here. Part of me felt they were somewhat too personal, but the other part of me really loves the idea of sharing our promises to each other with you all. For accountability and encouragement. I also think it is a lovely way for you to get to know our hearts a little better. So.. here they are!
Cassie, our lives together are just beginning. Today, I willingly take on your triumphs, pains, struggles, successes, and joys. I willingly take on cleaning the cat litter so you don’t barf. I take on mowing the grass so your allergies don’t ruin your life. I take on digging jewelry out of our sink pipes and hair out of our drains. But more importantly, I will burden myself for your improvements and encouragement. The gifts and talents God has given you amaze me every day. I am truly the lucky one standing here today. Despite my best efforts to ruin your workouts with my butter and sugar filler baking, you remain the most beautiful human inside and out that I have ever met. God’s work in our lives is evident and while I can’t promise perfection, success, wealth, or a long life, I can promise love, support, and awkward introductions with new friends, because God has surely shown immeasurable favor to two broken souls. I vow to you to be my absolute best. Not because of anything that I am but because God’s love and mercy has allowed me to be. I love you and I strive to make that even more true each and every day of our lives together.
Matt, I loved you from the first time I realized I wanted to be a better person when you were around. And when I realized I knew who I was with you. You coming into my life has been one of God’s greatest demonstrations of His love for me- because I know He sent you to redeem me. And for that reason, I know you are my person. I also know that being with you is a privilege and not a right. And for that reason, I vow to love you the way that God loves me; with faithfulness, selflessness, trust, respect, and grace. I vow to pray for you, esteem you, encourage you, anticipate your needs, and oblige to you as I do Jesus. I even promise not to keep score- even if I’m totally winning. I vow to advocate for you, go the extra mile when I don’t feel like it, seek enjoyment in your interests, and most importantly, lay down my life for you; in seasons of scarcity and abundance. And the best part is I know that when I fall short, God will sustain us. And with this I, Cassie, take you, Matt, to be my husband- even if you love Beyonce and all the single ladies.
Did you or do you plan to write your own vows when you got/get married? Why or why not?