Hi, my name is Rebecca and I blog over at RebeccaChapman.com. I am so honored that Cassie has allowed me to talk to you today. I grew up in California singing and writing songs and today I live in Nashville and work at a record label. I met my husband at church a little over three years ago and we were married last September. When I was younger, it was always my dream to be with a man with a southern accent and I am so lucky that my handsome and loving husband just happened to be born and raised in Tennessee.
When I got married, I made a vow of fidelity to my husband. And when I thought of fidelity, I thought it just meant to be sexually faithful. While that is a huge part of fidelity, I’m finding that there is so much more to it than that.
The dictionary defines fidelity as faithfulness to a person, cause, or belief, demonstrated by continuing loyalty and support.
Meaning to truly show my husband fidelity, I need to support his dreams and give him a safe place to express his desires without feeling like I am judging him.
I need to show my husband loyalty by sharing my joys and challenges with him instead of just my friends.
I need to be emotionally invested in my husband more than any other person in my life.
And for the most part, those things are easy. At the end of the day I cannot wait to tell him how my day was and hear about what he did. I love hearing about his dreams and goals for the future and make a point to show him that I believe those longings can be accomplished. My husband is without a doubt the person I am most emotionally invested in.
But, I admit I sometimes fall short. Sometimes I only tell my mom about a certain struggle I’m having and I assume incorrectly that my husband shouldn’t be bothered with it. Other times I vent to my friends about challenges we may be facing in our relationship instead of discussing it with him directly. And worse still, when my husband shares some of his dreams with me, instead of acting supportive, I worry about how his pursuits will affect me.
Proverbs 31:11 says of a capable wife, “Her husband trusts her from his heart, And he lacks nothing of value.” And I want that for my husband. I want him to feel like he can trust me completely with his feelings, his aspirations, and his challenges because I am his most loyal companion. I want my husband to know that I come to him first and foremost with all my high and all my lows. I want him to feel secure in knowing that I am not only sexually faithful to him, but I am guarding my emotions for him as well.
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