12.31.2014

Equally Yoked: A 2015 Challenge: Speak Highly of your Spouse

Today is a bittersweet day. It's the last day of Equally Yoked! Although I am sad that the series is coming to an end, I am so full of joy looking back on the past few months of the series. Each post has done work in my heart, and I hope that you can say the same. THANK YOU to everyone who has supported this series from the beginning. It means so much to me. Joining us today is the lovely Lauren. Lauren's heart for the Lord is such an inspiration and it reflects clearly into her marriage. It's such a privilege to have her with us for the last installment of the series!

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Happy New Year's Eve!! I'm Lauren and I blog over at 34 Magnolia Street about faith, fashion, DIYs and how much I like to rearrange my furniture. The latter is a problem, but more on that another time. I am really stoked to be joining you and all the other ladies who have taken part in this Equally Yoked series so far. Cassie is a gem and this series has really warmed my heart.

I've been married for two and a half years to Jacob, who is now my most cherished friend and life partner. Marriage has been a huge opportunity for growth in both of us - there have been many thrilling, fabulous and love-filled moments, and there have also been self-centered, hurtful moments. That's what happens when you pair two people to adventure through a lifetime together. And all of it is good.

Back to New Year's Eve, though. Do you have plans? Many of you, I'm sure, will be gathering with friends or family to ring in this new year, full of clean slates, resolutions and excitement.

With all of those hopes for new slates and growth, I want to give you a challenge for 2015: speak highly of your spouse.


Does that sound easy to you? I think the timing of this post is so perfect because you're gathering with other people tonight. You're going to eat great food, maybe play some games, tell some jokes, and even laugh together! But what do you joke about?

My least favorite thing to see in the marriages around me is spouses who make their spouse the butt of their jokes. There's something to be said for teasing someone lovingly, but I stand very firmly on the side of speaking highly of my spouse. Ladies, it is so important to build your husband up in public. You know we have a way to put someone down while only "joking," but what good does that do for your relationship?

And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. - Hebrews 10: 24-25

While the author in Hebrews isn't specifically speaking of marriage here, those words certainly apply. In all things consider how to stir your husband up to love and good works. Does airing his dirty laundry with your friends do that? Does pointing out his flaws while "only joking" at a party do that? I don't think it does.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. - Philippians 4:8

Ladies, I know marriage is hard sometimes. And if you have serious issues you need to work out, I implore you to seek counsel together or separately from a wise, Christ-seeking couple in your lives. But regardless of where you are in your marriage, I challenge you to seek to uplift your spouse and encourage him to love and good works in all you do. And that starts with how you speak about him in public.

Happy New Year, friends! I would love to hear from you! You can catch up with me via the social media links below, or you can email me at laurenbalbrecht@gmail.com. Good luck with your 2015 Challenge! ;)

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7 comments :

  1. so sad to see this series go, but what a great way to end it! I've always thought the "haha, just kidding jokes" about your spouse weren't that funny... in my opinion when you say something and cover it up with "only kidding" or something similar, you weren't only kidding. It's absolutely important to speak highly of your spouse and keep them #1! :) happy new years eve ladies!

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  2. It's definitely a lesson to learn. I think it also depends what crowd you're with. My family, who is full of sarcasm and jokes, loves to poke fun at each other. Your spouse's family or friends might not see it the same way!

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  3. What a great way to end this series!!!! I could not agree more when everything you said, Lauren! Happy New Years!!!

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  4. I needed this today..and while it doesn't feel good to admit that to myself let alone publicly, it's true. While I've ALWAYS agreed with this and for the most part have lived this way, I've started doing little things here and there. Especially as our marriage has had challenges adapting to parenthood. I should just accept that I've made poor choices in 2014 in that regard and send those choices out with the year. I do have a question, though. This morning I was talking with a friend. She had a rough day the other day and was explaining some things that were bothering her. She wasn't talking badly about her spouse, just honestly. And she was talking about a struggle she is having about one of their major differences. I can relate so I started relating. I wouldn't say either one of us talked badly about our husbands but we both did share frustration about our husbands. Any thoughts on how to have honest discussions without tearing your spouse down? How can we relate to others in a positive way. It's something I would honestly LOVE to do and master but I also don't want to come across as though we don't have challenges or we are perfect because that's far from the truth. Sometimes too much honesty gets me in trouble and can be far from uplifting.

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  5. That's such a great question because I feel like that happens a lot for females in their friendships. I think it's OK to talk honestly about your struggles with your spouse in private. Obviously, they should still be respected and you should be mindful of how you are speaking of them, but I think it's perfectly normal to do what you're talking about. I think it's HEALTHY even. Thanks so much for your comment, I love that we are able to engage on topics like this!

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  6. YES and you can't take back the things that you have said before!

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