3.16.2015

A Coffee Date with Tinker Coffee

Tinker Coffee

If we were on a coffee date, I would invite you over to our house- something that is a work in progress, but something that is ours. We would sit in my kitchen where I would make us some Tinker Coffee in my favorite french press. I'd let you pick your mug because we have quite the variety. Then, I would start out by bragging on Tinker a bit before diving into the heart-level stuff.

I would tell you about how I really love Tinker, an Indianapolis-based coffee roaster, because they have some of the best coffees from around the world. We would be drinking coffee from Mexico this time around. It has the perfect blend of deep chocolate notes balanced with bright hints of cherry and cedar. I think you would love it. It's smooth and flavorful. Don't ask for creamer though- I might be offended.

Tinker Coffee

After I act all pretentious about my coffee, I'd ask you how you are doing. How you are REALLY doing. None of that superficial, "I'm good but busy" stuff. I would ask how I might pray for you and we might even pray right then and there.

After that, I would tell you that this has been a dry season for me spiritually. When things get crazy with school, I try my hardest to keep boundaries, but it can be a challenge. I'd share what I'm really struggling with: forgiveness and prayer. I'd tell you I haven't read my bible consistently at all this last month, and I would tell you how guilty I feel about that.

I'd share about how graduate school can be really hard. It's such an awesome experience and most days I really love it, but it can be incredibly demanding. I am so lucky to be a part of my program, but like any job, it has hard days.

I would tell you about how I am trying to be more intentional with others around me. I can be shy and totally introverted, so going up to someone new at church and introducing myself is hard. It takes a lot out of me. I am really trying to become more comfortable in these types of situations. I would probably ask you how you deal with being missional and how your personality type helps or hurts that.

Maybe, if I'm really being honest, I would tell you that sometimes I think I put too many expectations on people. That I have ideas of how relationships will play out, and that I am often hurt when they don't go as planned. It's all a part of my idol: control.  

Most likely, I would tell you that all my friends are pregnant. I'd share how happy I am for them and how I am nowhere near ready for that time in my life. I would tell you that I worry about how friendships will change when they all welcome their little ones into the world and how I feel selfish for thinking that.

Before the end of our coffee date, I would ask you to pray for me because I know you gladly would. Even though I'm not a hugger, I might even give you a hug on your way out, because this level of vulnerability would warrant one.

Tinker Coffee

So, want to go on a real coffee date?

*I received this product from Tinker Coffee for free. However, all opinions are honest and my own.

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58 comments :

  1. If only you lived closer, then we would totally have coffee dates all the time. Come to NJ!

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  2. I love you! Now, send some of that coffee my way.

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  3. this is fab! and tinker is my maiden name so this made me happy :)

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  4. Ohh yum, that coffee sounds delicious! I love what you said about being introverted but pushing yourself to step out and introduce yourself to people, I'm the same way!

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  5. Tinker Coffee Sounds delicious! Did you order it or did you find it in a local store?

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  6. I ordered it online but they're located in Indianapolis!

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  7. So glad I'm not alone. It's seriously a challenge for me.

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  8. Haha too funny! You'll have to order some of their coffee!

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  9. Haha I love you too! Tinker rocks!

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  10. Oooh I wish! It's probably really nice this time of year!

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  11. Ahh I can't wait to try my coffee from them. I got the one from Peru and I'm just waiting on my grinder to show up so that I can drink it. A lot of my friends are either pregnant or have kids already too. And I agree - it's a struggle when you aren't there yet. I don't know if I will ever feel 100% ready to start a family but I do struggle with friends having babies. And it will change things - just be prepared for that.

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  12. Dance With A DollyMarch 16, 2015 at 6:47 AM

    I may be the only person in the world that despises coffee. I can't even stomach the smell of it but we can go on a vodka date. Haha! And your friendships with your prego friends will change but the bond can still be as strong as ever if both sides work at it but it is a difficult adjustment. I speak as a mom with several younger childless friends. xo

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  13. Yes yes yes. I'm ready for a real coffee date please. As long as you promise me I'm allowed to put cream and sugar in my coffee ;) so it tastes like candy. Hehe!

    You sound like such a caring, wonderful person! Would be so fun to be real-life friends!

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  14. I think we definitely need to have a coffee date, girl! If you're ever in Indianapolis, I think you need to stop by the Green Cape Cod, I'll brew you a cup (I can get some Tinker coffee, cause, ya know, it's local and all). You can vent about grad school, and I'll listen and nod my head because I've been there and done that. Given that all our friends are also pregnant or recently gave birth (as in yesterday....), and we don't have kiddos yet, I think we would have lots to talk about. Ending it with a prayer and a hug sounds kinda perfect! Sound like a good plan to you?

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  15. as a fellow lover of coffee, I would LOVE to go on a coffee date with you. Esp if it means getting to try fun new coffee in your home!

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  16. YUM! That sounds delightful.


    And yes, a few of mine already have kids and it's such a joy to have them- but it definitely does change things.

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  17. I think you're totally right! The friendships just take more work at that point :)

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  18. Hahahah we will find some sort of compromise. And thanks Kayla- hopefully one day we will have a chance to meet :)

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  19. YES! So I'm coming there in September for the Influence Conference!!! You're so right- sounds like we would have a TON to talk about!!!

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  20. YUM YUM YUM! That would be SO MUCH FUN!!!!

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  21. SO funny you mention that - I was JUST looking at Influence Conference tickets this weekend. I really want to go, and I won't need a hotel, but I don't know if I want to splurge $300 on it :( I know, I know, I should have bought one of the early tickets. I also want to join the Influence Network, but we're trying to get away from monthly subscription stuff. Sigh. Decisions, decisions.

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  22. I just cancelled my subscription with the Network after only 3 months. We can talk about this privately if you would like. That being said, it was hard for me to drop the money on the tickets too but I have been using a portion of the income from my ads to cover the cost and my husband and I do monthly "allowances" so I have been paying back the cost of the ticket with that too :)

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  23. I absolutely would!! It feels like we get to know each other virtually, but nothing is better than face-to-face interaction, and coffee is definitely a great conversation starter!

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  24. I love your honesty and openness. I would love to have coffee with you and would mostly definitely give you a hug because you are just amazing.

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  25. Thanks Anne, it really helps me to process through things in my writing. I'm just glad to have a group of supportive people that like to read them! Hahaha

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  26. sounds like a great coffee date but i would totally offend you when i ask for creamer because i just neeeeed it :) i also feel you about it taking so much out of ourselves when we talk to new people, whew just thinking about it is making me nervous.

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  27. What a cute name for coffee! I will absolutely be praying for you sweet friend as you navigate through school and this dry season of faith. It happens to us all!

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  28. Someday we are going to have a real coffee date. In the meantime, I am praying for you during this season. xo

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  29. I would totally go on a coffee date with you and I would insist on a hug because I totally am a hugger. Also I plan on praying for you, I hope things are going well, I wish we could have coffee and no I don't use creamer.

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  30. What a great concept, I would love to go on a coffee date with you!!

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  31. I feel like we would have too much fun. Is that even a thing?

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  32. I love you friend and I know that concern. And I worry too. But we will figure it out and we will have an even better friendship a year from now... At least that's what I pray for :) just don't punch my baby

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  33. What a fun post! I mostly take my coffee black so hopefully I wouldn't offend you. ;) I'm an introvert, too, so I wouldn't hug you but think we'd have lots to discuss. All of my friends have had babies; it is a little difficult (and not at all selfish to be concerned), but it's nice to have them all ahead of you. I now have lots of experienced ladies to ask for advice if/when that time comes! Praying for you to get through this time... you rock!

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  34. I have been practicing my baby punching..

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  35. You are so right about having people to get advice from when that time comes! You rock too!

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  36. Beautifully said, Cassie. Thank you for your honesty. Intentionality is always at the forefront. I'm in this place where I want to balance in person relationships and the ones I have online. I love cultivating my space, but I don't want to stress out and miss what is happening in my life.

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  37. YES, I have been feel like that a bit too! It's hard to find balance, but so important!

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  38. I am not a hugger either! Unite.
    I worry about how my relationships will change, and I'm the one who's pregnant! So don't feel like your pregnant friends don't worry about that too. It's unrealistic to think it will stay exactly the same, but I also think sometimes people make it all change too much when it doesn't have to. It's a huge, life-changing thing, but it doesn't have to mean you never talk to your friends again. At least that's what I keep hoping! :)

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  39. I think you're right. I by no means think we will never talk but I also recognize how priorities change!

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  40. I think that I would love a coffee date with you. I, too, have been someone dried up spiritually. For no reason I can fathom, I am behind on my Bible reading, and am not even really praying as I used to. What gives?

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  41. I want to go on a real coffee date! That coffee looks delicious. It's amazing how a cup of good coffee encourages deeper conversations. Maybe that's why coffee dates are so special. I don't feel like I'm going through a "dry" season spiritually, but some nights I'm too tired to read my Bible, but I'm exhausted so I don't truly let it sink in. And I feel like my boyfriend hears from God all the time, and I can't. I'm trying to be present more, but I suck at it.

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  42. I'm in the saaaaame place lady. I'm trying to give myself grace over it but I can't help but feel guilty

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  43. Isn't that the truth?! I have the same problem. I'm really bad at listening and just letting the spirit guide me.

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  44. Well it's at least nice to know I'm not alone in that. I'll pray for some guidance for us both!

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  45. Yes, the snow has stopped now. Finally.

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  46. I'd love to come for a real coffee date! And I totally hear you on all the friends having babies. Blogger babies, friend babies, co-worker babies. Sheesh!

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  47. girl. intention and boundaries and expectation. can we just talk about this till we're blue in the face and about to explode from all the caffeine in our bodies? i have really been trying to lean into grace lately, reminding myself that even i deserve a break sometimes, but that's not easy... and some days being kind to my own soul just doesn't even register. but we deserve it. we do we do we do! :)

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  48. Agreed! But sometimes I don't want to get in the cheap grace mindset and talk myself out of being intentional, etc. It's such a fine line to walk!!!

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  49. you are just the kind of person i want to be friends with

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  50. BecauS of the questions you would ask me if we were on a coffee date it looks like you really care about your friends and what they are really feeling and going through. Who wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that?

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