If we were on a coffee date, I would invite you over to our house- something that is a work in progress, but something that is ours. We would sit in my kitchen where I would make us some Tinker Coffee in my favorite french press. I'd let you pick your mug because we have quite the variety. Then, I would start out by bragging on Tinker a bit before diving into the heart-level stuff.
I would tell you about how I really love Tinker, an Indianapolis-based coffee roaster, because they have some of the best coffees from around the world. We would be drinking coffee from Mexico this time around. It has the perfect blend of deep chocolate notes balanced with bright hints of cherry and cedar. I think you would love it. It's smooth and flavorful. Don't ask for creamer though- I might be offended.
After I act all pretentious about my coffee, I'd ask you how you are doing. How you are REALLY doing. None of that superficial, "I'm good but busy" stuff. I would ask how I might pray for you and we might even pray right then and there.
After that, I would tell you that this has been a dry season for me spiritually. When things get crazy with school, I try my hardest to keep boundaries, but it can be a challenge. I'd share what I'm really struggling with: forgiveness and prayer. I'd tell you I haven't read my bible consistently at all this last month, and I would tell you how guilty I feel about that.
I'd share about how graduate school can be really hard. It's such an awesome experience and most days I really love it, but it can be incredibly demanding. I am so lucky to be a part of my program, but like any job, it has hard days.
I would tell you about how I am trying to be more intentional with others around me. I can be shy and totally introverted, so going up to someone new at church and introducing myself is hard. It takes a lot out of me. I am really trying to become more comfortable in these types of situations. I would probably ask you how you deal with being missional and how your personality type helps or hurts that.
Maybe, if I'm really being honest, I would tell you that sometimes I think I put too many expectations on people. That I have ideas of how relationships will play out, and that I am often hurt when they don't go as planned. It's all a part of my idol: control.
Most likely, I would tell you that all my friends are pregnant. I'd share how happy I am for them and how I am nowhere near ready for that time in my life. I would tell you that I worry about how friendships will change when they all welcome their little ones into the world and how I feel selfish for thinking that.
Before the end of our coffee date, I would ask you to pray for me because I know you gladly would. Even though I'm not a hugger, I might even give you a hug on your way out, because this level of vulnerability would warrant one.
So, want to go on a real coffee date?
*I received this product from Tinker Coffee for free. However, all opinions are honest and my own.