3.27.2015

How to NOT Be a Bridezilla

Hello everyone! I don't know if we've met...I'm Christine from The So-Called Homemaker! I'm so excited that Cassie is letting me take over her blog today, because I get to talk about something that I really don't talk about often...wedding stuff! You see, I was married for two years before I started my blog, so I never got to do "Wedding Wednesday" or post about all my wedding details. While I have talked about my wedding once on my blog, I'm excited to share some of my best tips - for NOT being a bridezilla!
  How not to be a Bridezilla

Keep it small. While you may be tempted to invite everyone, their brother, and their brother's neighbors, to your wedding, just don't. The more people you invite, the less time you have to spend with each of them and the less memories you'll get to create. Obviously, a smaller wedding is generally cheaper as well. PS: If you invite too many people, you'll spend so much time talking to them all that you won't get to eat. Which would be awful. 

Take a deep breath. Although the accepted maxim in today's society is that your wedding is the "most important day in your life," it really ISN'T. You will (hopefully, if you don't act like a bridezilla) live long enough to have many other days which are just as important to you. While it is an important day, it is not the end-all-be-all for your life, so don't treat it like it is.


How not to be a Bridezilla

Change your idea of perfect. When we grow up, we all picture the "perfect" wedding day in our minds, and let me tell you, if you're expecting your wedding to be like that, prepare to be disappointed. Things will go wrong. Things will break. Things will be lost. If you get stuck on everything that is going wrong, you will lose focus on everything that is going right...and as Carrie said to Charlotte, you'll miss it!

It's not all about you. Despite everything that you've grown up hearing and everything that people may say to you, your wedding is not YOUR day. Your wedding is, at the very least, about two people - yourself and your fiance. Include him in the planning, and let him have a silly cake if he wants it. Let him dance as oddly as he wants to, and don't make him wear a tux if he doesn't want to. Remember, after the wedding the two of you have to live together so he is the last person you want to alienate!


How not to be a Bridezilla
Yes, that is a picture of my groom's cake...it was a fish, and YES we picked it out to be red velvet on in the inside to look like blood. And you know what? It was a hit and everyone loved it, including me! Have fun! This one is obvious...just have fun! Stop trying to make it be something that you imagined and just let it be what it is!

Are you getting married soon? What kind of things are you doing to keep from being a bridezilla? If you're already married, what other tips would you give to brides?

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26 comments :

  1. Yes to things happening that are out of your control. You just need to let them happen and have someone to help if things get bad. But really - it's not a big deal. The goal is to be married at the end of the day and that will happen even if things don't go as planned.

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  2. Dance With A DollyMarch 27, 2015 at 8:24 AM

    I was very laid back when it came to my wedding...I knew things were bound to go "wrong" but that morning I told myself that if anything happened I would laugh it off as opposed to letting it ruin my day. Sure enough when I was walking down the aisle my dress got snagged on a nail on the deck of the reception hall and I was stuck. I tried walking but kept getting pulled back. All eyes were on me me, I just smiled and gave a giggle and luckily one of my guests next to the mishap was able to free my dress and I continued down the aisle. This really wasn't a big deal in the least but I have certainly known some bridezillas that would have freaked. Instead my guests told me how cute I was when I was stuck instead of being a raging lunatic. Have to roll with the punches for sure.

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  3. YES! I did not have a small wedding... not in the least... but it was SO important for me to remember from the very beginning that it was not just about me! I even toasted my guests at the wedding to tell them how the wedding was really about them-- how they had shaped us and cared for us and participated in our victories going forward. Loved this post!

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  4. No one wants to be around bridezilla ;) I think it's most important to remember that it's not the wedding that matters, but the marriage :)

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  5. i totally want that fish cake for my birthday now! thanks for this piece and pointing out that your wedding day isn't the best day ever and it should be shared by BOTH of you!

    i'm a strong believer that if people spent just a fraction of the time, money and energy they do after getting married that they do in planning the wedding, relationships would be that much stronger!

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  6. Oh god my boyfriend would LOVEE that fish cake. I'm not getting married anytime soon, but great post!!

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  7. I'm so with you on planning for marriage. SO important and much longer lasting :)

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  8. What a great way to honor your guests, I love that you did that!

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  9. I was the same way. My dress actually began shredding before the ceremony because it was lace and we were walking through tall grass. A friend of mine stitched me up and I was totally fine haha the whole time my photographer kept saying how thankful she was that I didn't freak out

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  10. This is partly why Hubs and I eloped! It's WAY cheaper and we got to focus on US rather than a big party. I don't think I would have been a bridezilla, but there would definitely have been a Momzilla.

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  11. These are excellent points, Christine!! I think even if you have a huge wedding, you can still keep these other things in mind and it will really help things. Love the "change your idea of perfect" point.

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  12. Hahah!! Eloping still sounds fun. Maybe we will renew our vows and pretend we are eloping in 10 years haha

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  13. You can absolutely have a huge wedding and keep from going crazy. Small is just my preference, but I always am so impressed with women who can handle big parties!

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  14. Haha! We "eloped" sort of, but we did do a reception later. But our wedding was all us, and I loved that! #twinning

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  15. Thanks so much! We went back and forth between that or an xbox controller but I'm glad we picked this!

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  16. Oh, totally! Small was my preference too for my own wedding but I must say... if I'm a guest- the bigger the better! (Easy for me to say, right?! ha!)

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  17. I am in total agreement! A marriage is SO much more important than a wedding, but I think a lot of people have forgotten that!

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  18. That is the sweetest idea! I love that!

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  19. It sounds like you handled that situation with beautiful grace! I wish more women could be like you at their weddings!

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  20. Change your idea of perfect is a major one. I'm not married, but I know so many of my friends have been left disappointed because they had these grand expectations since childhood. Things are going to go wrong and you just have to remember the wedding is another day that starts a wonderful journey. You'll look back and laugh at the bumps. Also your cake may win best cake ever. Sense of humor heck yes.

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  21. You're spot on. None of the "little" things matter.

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