Consider this your warning... this post is mostly a disorganized mess of all of my complicated thoughts regarding sharing pregnancies on the internet and social media. You can also consider this a disclaimer. These thoughts are my own and what might be best for me might not be best for you- that is to be expected. Since my thoughts are so complicated, I would love for you to share yours in the comments, especially if you're a mom because I obviously am not at that place in my life, and my opinion is subject to change when/if we get there.
Now that we have that out of the way, let me get to the good stuff. I do not think I will share my pregnancy online. At least not on my blog. But as I said above, that is subject to change. There are many reasons for this.
The first reason is privacy. Although I am a blogger and choose to put my life out there on the internet, I do still have boundaries and I am actually a pretty private person. I don't plan to ever write a "mommy blog" so it shouldn't be terribly hard to write about other things, or at least when I do write about motherhood or share on social media, to keep my children's faces and information private.
The next issue concerns safety and security. Similar to Meagan's thoughts on the issue, I worry about photos of my (future) children getting into the wrong hands. There are people on instagram who steal photos of other people's children and share them as their own (and sometimes do worse things with them). Predators also use the internet. Just because blogging is my hobby, that doesn't mean it will be in my children's best interest to be on here. I also work in the mental health field, and clients don't need to see my kids. Although I won't be able to resist sharing on social media, I can resist sharing their faces.
My third reason is kind of silly, but I think it's weird that women share ultrasound photos on the internet. When you think about it, I know pregnancy is beautiful and all, but you are putting your unborn child and uterus out there for everyone to see. This is a SUPER intimate thing I only want to share with my husband, close family and friends. Also, it's kind of weird that everyone has seen a 3D photo of your child before it is even born. Am I alone here?
Fourth, I can't help but feel for all the women who are single, struggling with infertility, or coping with the loss of babies. Now, I know that shouldn't prevent someone from sharing in their excitement, but I think it should be at least thoughtfully acknowledged.
Because there are two sides to every issue, and as I have said my thoughts are complicated, I do go back and forth on this issue. Mostly because when the time comes for us to have children, I know I will be really excited and want to share with my blogger friends. I also know, however, that I can still share with those bloggers I know well via e-mail, etc.
I know there are plenty of people who choose to share their pregnancies and children online and I am not judging them for that.We each have our own ways of doing things, and this will likely be mine.
I also recognize it might be weird to all of a sudden have a child, but that is something I am willing to deal with as it comes. It's likely my pregnancy won't stay a total secret, but it probably won't be on my blog. I know this seems extreme, but the safety and security of my family is important to me. And all of this being said, I AM NOT PREGNANT. Promise.
Did/will you share your pregnancy online? How do/will you deal with issues such as safety and security when it comes to your children?
Today the lovely Amanda from Knock on Wood is joining us! Amanda is a fellow Missourian who actually only lives an hour or so away from me! I'm excited for the day we actually get to meet because this lady has a huge heart and the cutest dog in the world that I might dog-nap. Shhhh. Take it away Amanda!Hello Sage readers! I'm Amanda and I blog over at Knock on Wood. You can find anything from love and relationship topics to recipes and life tips there, and if I haven't blogged about it and you want to read about it, let me know and I'll get right on that. I'm pretty sure the posts about my furkids and my crazy conversations with Hubs (and other people) are everyone's favorites. I'm kicking Cassie out for a moment because she wants me to answer these very important questions. So here it goes.
Helping people. This is why my job is so perfect for me; I'm a Certified Medical Assistant (CMA) at a local long term assisted living facility for senior citizens. My residents have awesome stories to tell and can offer some great life advice. Just because they are "old" doesn't mean they don't have their wits about them. This is also why I chose Psychology as my major when I decided to go back to school. Since starting my job, I think I want to work with seniors as well as offer marriage and relationship counseling.
2. If you could travel to one place in the entire world, where would it be and why?
England. I went there once in 2008 and I fell in love. There is so much history and amazing architecture, and so many things I wasn't able to see and experience. I think I need an entire year there to explore everything to my satisfaction.
3. If you could learn to do anything, what would it be and why?
To communicate with my furkids. Seriously, sometimes I really really want to know what they are thinking or needing. When Bear was sick last week, I would have given anything to know for sure what was making him feel yucky! And my cats are always meowing about something.
4. Would you like to know the day you’re going to die ahead of time? Why or why not?
Oh, this is a hard one. On one hand I would, so I can make sure I get in everything I absolutely want to do. But on the other, I don't. I wouldn't want that looming over me and my family every single day. You know, let's go with no. We should live every day like it could be our last. Each one we get is such a blessing.
5. What’s something you wish everyone knew about you?
That I can be honest to a fault, and sometimes I say things harshly/frankly without realizing I am. Most of the time I am only trying to help, but it can come off as something entirely different. I am working on this, so if you experience something like this, please please let me know, so I can explain further what I was trying to say and so that it is brought to my attention. That way I'll be able to catch myself before I say something like that again. My Husband does this with me, and it's helped us understand each other so much better.