4.08.2015

10 Tips for Being Intentional with Neighbors + Meet Anne

Being an Intentional NeighborI love community yet I can find it hard to be intentional. Especially as an introvert. Something I have really wanted to do more of is be intentional with our neighbors. We live in a fairly small subdivision full of young families and elderly adults. There are always kids outside playing and people walking their dogs. It's really a great neighborhood. However, I can fall short when it comes to being intentional with them. The following are a few tips for how you (and I) can be intentional and missional with our neighbors!

1. Invite them over for meals. I'd like to get better about this because it's such a great way to get to know people. Have them over for a BBQ or a quick lunch!

2. Give them little gifts for Christmas (or other special occasions). This is one thing I'm actually pretty good at (humble-brag). Our first year in the neighborhood, I made our immediate neighbors (those next door and across the street) homemade candles. Last year, I made two sets of hand-warmers each. One of our neighbors told me he uses them in the mornings when he goes outside to put seed in his bird feeders. This doesn't have to be anything expensive, just something simple to let them know you care.

3. Say hello and start conversations with them; be friendly. Even just waving at someone as you drive by is a kind gesture. My husband is really good about waving to a kid who waits for the bus every morning when we drive by. Just being friendly with your neighbors is a good way to start building relationships.

4. Pray for them. I encourage you to pray for your neighborhood and for opportunities to be missional.

5. Offer to keep an eye on their house while they are out of town. It's really nice to know that your neighbors are willing to look out for you while you're gone.

6. Invite them to church events and share your faith with them. This doesn't have to be done in a pushy way. Get to know your neighbors first, then use the opportunity to share the gospel.

7. Be visible. Take regular walks, sit out on the front porch after dinner, and work in the yard! Make yourself visible to your neighbors.

8. Share extra vegetables from your garden or eggs from your chickens. I'm really looking forward to when we finally get chickens so that we can start sharing some of them with our neighbors! You don't have to have a garden or chickens to share. Going on a long vacation? Stop by your neighbors house and offer them your excess produce! They might even agree to watch your house!

9. Remember people's names. Those people you met on the street the other day? Remember their names (and their kid's names) so that you can properly address them next time you see them.

10. Keep your house looking nice and don't be too loud. Be a positive influence in the neighborhood. Invest in making your home appear inviting. Also, if your dog barks incessantly, consider keeping them inside when you're not home.

How are you intentional with your neighbors?

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I'm so excited to be introducing Anne to you all today. Anne is one of my favorite bloggers. She's such a genuine soul. Not to mention this lady writes some of the best blogging posts I have ever seen! I hope you'll stick around and get to know her a little better.
Hi there! My name is Anne, also known as the blogger behind Love the Here and Now. My corner of the blogosphere has a variety of topics. I love to talk about blogging and share tutorials but you will also find that I share the day to day moments of life, from books to recipes and everything in between. I'm not only a blogger, I'm also a wife to my high school sweetheart and a mom to 3 beautiful daughters. I was a stay at home mom when my daughters were younger but I currently went to work full time at our local library about 4 years ago. I like to think that I can relate to many different people because of all of those roles. I'd love to have you follow along as I share my life as it's happening...here and now.

1. What are you passionate about?
My true passion lies in my daughters. I want to raise 3 daughters that have the self confidence that will guide them through life with their heads held high. That's not an easy task to do in this day and age. My daughters will always be my biggest source of pride and my greatest accomplishment in life.

2. If you could travel to one place in the entire world, where would it be and why? 
That depends....if I can conquer my fear of flying I would love to go to Paris and Capri. Those 2 places are definitely high on my list right now. If I can't get over that fear, I would say Martha's Vineyard or Nantucket. There's just something magical to me about a quaint seaside town.

3. If you could learn to do anything, what would it be and why?
If I could go back and learn a new skill I would definitely want to learn web design. I would love to have the confidence and knowledge to make any changes I want to my blog and to be able to design blogs. I think that would be a great way to flex some creative muscles.



4. Would you like to know the day you’re going to die ahead of time? Why or why not?
Oh gosh...what a tough question. I would have to say that I would want to know. That would enable me to accomplish everything that I want to do and be able to say all of my goodbyes. I know we should live life as if today is your last day but quite frankly, with working and a family and everything in between I don't always have the time to live life spontaneously. I do have to say though, I am quite pleased with what I have done in my life thus far. If you and I are to be friends here's what you need to know: I may come off as shy at first; I like to take things in and assess the situation before I dive into anything. But don't let that cautiousness fool you; once I'm in, I'm IN.

5. What’s something you wish everyone knew about you?
If we are to be friends, you must be fluent in sarcasm and you must be willing to have my back as I will have yours no matter what. It helps if you enjoy laughter and prefer nights in relaxing with friends vs. nights out. If that sounds like something you can relate to, join me!

31 comments :

  1. I definitely need to be better about this. We haven't known our neighbors for years. It's bad.

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  2. I fail at this. I'm an introvert too and especially so at the end of a work day. Jason is friendly with all of our neighbors... I need work. Love your ideas! And I love Anne! Great post!

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  3. Aw, I love these ideas! I made some sweet breads for our building neighbors when they moved in but haven't done much other than wave since; I'd definitely like to get to know others in the neighborhood. Another suggestion that might be city-specific is to help with things like accepting deliveries and packages if your neighbor is out, and then making sure they can pick them up from you later. (Of course, it would be important to establish some trust first so no one thinks their packages have been stolen, haha.) Our neighbor works at home and has done this for us, and it makes life so much easier!

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  4. I hope to one day live in a friendly neighborhood like you - living in a apartment building is hard to get to know who lives by you because you rarely see them unless you happen to be in the elevator at the same time :(. And of course, Anne is amazing!

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  5. That's interesting! I thought it was easier to be friends with my neighbors when I lived in an apartment because we ran into each other so much more!

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  6. What a kind neighbor! I think it definitely depends on where you live and what type of housing it is. I would love to be your neighbor and get sweet breads or even better, potstickers!

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  7. Yeah, we have had a lot of turnover in our neighborhood in the last year so that has made it a little hard but also created new opportunities to start building relationships!

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  8. This has been on my heart lately and these are great tips! We live in a condo community where people are very much to themselves and it makes it scary to reach out. We recently made and brought dinner over for our closest neighbors because they had just had a baby. It was really intimidating because we hadn't ever really talked to them before but I think they appreciated it and now we are able to chat a little bit when we see them. Great post!

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  9. That's really cool that you were able to do that. It can feel really weird at first but I have come to find out that once you get past that initial awkwardness it's really cool to have relationships with them!

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  10. Yes definitely I would agree! I just have to not let my fear prevent me from being the first one to make a move :)

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  11. Such a great post! I'm an introvert too and it's hard not to close my door and hide under a blanket in front of the tv with my dogs, especially after a long day. Def going to try your tips!

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  12. Hahaha I can totally relate girl, it takes a HUGE effort on my end and I have been failing lately myself

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  13. What a great post that I haven't read anything about before, nice tips. I loved getting to know more about Anne, she really seems like a doll!

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  14. Oh how I wish I could share this with some of my neighbors...

    And Anne IS the best!

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  15. Thanks, I am glad you enjoyed it!

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  16. LOVE this. We are moving to a new neighborhood soon and I definitely want to be more outgoing. I think we've become comfortable with our friends and are now at that point where we need to intentionally reach out to more. Thanks for writing this Cassie!

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  17. Such a great post, I'm a neighborhood person, I like to make friends and what better than having a friend live close by. I try to be that outgoing neighbor and I have made some friends around the neighborhood, but I could do more. Thanks for the reminder!

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  18. Thanks for reading. I hope these are practical tips you can implement in your new neighborhood!

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  19. Thanks for having me today!! As for being intentional with neighbors...this is such a great post! We once were part of a progressive dinner in our neighborhood and we loved it. It was so much fun! It was a great way to get to know everyone better.

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  20. I have heard those are an absolute blast! I'll have to look more into it!

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  21. I love this! I very much believe in being intentional with neighbors. Most people just stay in their home and never get to know their neighbors. When we had a BBQ for our neighbors in Dallas, those who came were so appreciative and we developed great friendships. Unfortunately, others were really grouchy and rude because we even invited them. I don't get people who are so grouchy. I think it's weird that we live so close to others sometimes and never even know their names! Great ideas, Cassie!

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  22. I totally agree with you. I have been thinking about a big BBQ now that our backyard is functional. We don't have fence so people could just walk around back and pop in and out as they please!

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  23. this is so great!! I live in a neighborhood where when it's nice out everyone hangs out in the street talking. I bet a BBQ would be something everyone loves!!

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  24. Awesome, it's really nice to live in a friendly neighborhood like that!

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