Another HUGE thank you goes out to all of you who participated in #morethanaframe again this week on instagram. I have loved watching this community flourish and grow together!
This week we talked about F E A R and how we are facing it with B R A V E R Y. This week I learned that we all struggle from similar heart issues. I learned that we are all broken and in need of Jesus to help us face those fears with bravery. I also learned that this community is so brave for showing their vulnerabilities to each other. There were so many encouraging posts that spoke straight to my heart. The following are a handful of my favorites:
The prompt for this week is FEAR. I'll tell you what I fear: being single for the rest of my life. The person who wrote the above note is my best friend's little girl, Brailyn. She is almost 7 years old and I've barely dated the entire time she has been alive. But you know what? The opposite of fear is being BRAVE. 💙 To me, being brave is being the third wheel and truly enjoying yourself, being the girl who takes an interest in a guy, it not being reciprocated, and being okay with that. Brave is definitely being the bridesmaid that constantly gets asked "when's your turn?" and just smiling without feeling defeated. I'll never know why some people get married at 19, some at 50, and some never do. If there is one thing I want to keep doing bravely: it's showing Brailyn that I will still make memories with her, with or without a ring on my left hand. #morethanaframe #fear #brave
Some people find it easy to be fearless...not me. I'm afraid of horror films, violent crimes, losing the people I care about, being alone, not having control in my life...the list goes on. What frightens me lately is the world. There is so much bad out there, reading the news regularly makes me want to bury my head under a pillow and not come out for weeks. How do I raise children in a world seemingly filled with so much anger, hatred, violence, evil? How do I keep them safe? How do I keep the evil of the world away from them? I look at their faces every day and I fear that I will fail them somehow, that I won't be able to protect them as well as they need. I could ball myself up in that fear and never take them outside the house but I have to find the strength to be #brave - I have to 'let go and let God'. I have to trust that I am not alone in trying to protect my children, that He watches over them too, and even better than I do. I have to have faith! #fear #morethanaframe
sometimes i'm afraid that i'm not going to be the kind of mom she needs me to be. i get tired, i get frustrated, i am not always my best self. i pray every night that God gives me the patience and grace to be what she needs me to be. with my first mother's day just a few days away, this is on my mind even more. but these smiles from her give me the reassurance i need on the hard days. #morethanaframe
I didn't think we could survive without him. It was years into our loss that I realized how afraid I was for life to continue in his absence. He was the protector and provider for all my days. It seemed he had the solution to life's pressing questions and scariest moments. But then dementia stole him and, thankfully, He remained faithful. Slowly I was honest about my fear and He provided by filling the hole so looming and large while I trembled under the weight of staggering loss. #pjm21day #morethanaframe #dementiadontcare
I am F E A R ful of not making it as an artist. I am afraid of settling for the 8-5. I am SO afraid of ring stuck. It's a struggle to balance a full time job, a part time business, a marriage, a household. There are days is want to give up and give in to the ease of a steady paycheck. BUT I continue to be B R A V E in putting myself and my work out there and knowing one day, all the hard work will bring something good. There have been lots of tears, lots of yearning, lots of comparing, but LOTS of love that trumps them all. #morethanaframe
Fear can be something that grips us and stops us from being who he has called us to be or do the things he's called us to do. I've realized some of my fears have lasted a few years because, well, it can be hard to be brave in our callings. I personally have had a fear the last two years that I am too small to make an impact or that it won't actually matter. Lately my most tangible fear is something I've kept bottled up for months until a few days ago when the stress became too overwhelming. My fear was that maybe God is just buying me time right now by me not becoming pregnant. This fear comes from constantly hearing about a possible uterine rupture while pregnant, which could end my life. Some how over the year and a half this little sneaky lie came over my heart that this will happen, when in reality it's just a possibility. What also helped manifest this into a large fear was that I feel like I am in a really good season of life and of course that means you die after (who knows). But it got wonky and it was something I stressed about on the daily. Fears are often lies, that you need to power wash and smother with his truth, facts and the shinequa hand. Don't let fear cripple you or grip your heart - surrender each fear and blow that stink right off you so that you keep moving forward towards God and his calling for you in your season. #morethanaframe
F E A R ... I've never really been afraid of much. I don't like scary movies, I prefer to not be touched by a bug or see a snake but I'm not gonna freak if those things happen. I love adventure ... Roller coasters, cliff diving, any new foods ... It even rolls over to trust. I'm almost too trusting of new people. And that's what brings me back to F E A R ... 2 months ago I moved from Indiana to Florida. I knew 3 people within 100 miles of my new home and one of them was my husband. I moved without hesitation ... Remember I'm adventurous... But it got pretty lonely pretty quick. I'm an introvert making new friends isn't second nature to me. So I'm fearful it'll take a long time, fearful it'll never happen, fearful to put myself out there, fearful of being burned, and even fearful I'll lose all my people back home ... But I know that when I leap and hold fast in my faith HE will catch me. So tomorrow I'm taking a leap here at splitsville, meeting new blogger ladies who will hopefully soon become friends and one lovely friend in real life for the first time ... #morethanaframe #friends #bloggers
This week's prompt for the #morethanaframe community is F E A R. and how we confront it with B R A V E R Y. This is a photograph of my beautiful mama, candids that weren't as in vogue as they are now. I love them. She looks so happy and in love. My parents meant their vows and raised a family. They are good people. They tried and yet...when I was in high school, they divorced. I love these photos of my mother SO much. But when I think of these photos and what took place twenty years later, I feel so much #fear. My biggest fear in life is vulnerability in relationships, giving my whole heart to someone and living wholeheartedly with another person and in community in general. We were meant for community and I've been hiding parts of myself from it. There are no promises. I've seen failure and wounds in my life and in others. Recently, I've started to be honest about this fear to myself and on the blog. The latest entry talks about this. In the last few weeks, I have been confronting this fear with #bravery. First, I had to lay it all out there. God has met me as I have offered up this fear to him with honesty and openness. I'm also forcing myself to step out in faith and do one thing a day (at least) that scares me in the vulnerability department. I want to be married and have kids someday. I look a lot like my mom and someday I would like to look a lot like her in these photos with as much happiness and joy but there is no guarantee that I won't be hurt (In fact, it's a guarantee: people hurt each other. I'm talking a major wound. After experiencing my own, I have been hiding in fear of #vulnerability). In opening up, I've experienced INCREDIBLE support and resources and love. I've been reading so many books and listening to TED talks and sermons and I know I am not alone in my fear and I won't be alone in choosing day by day, and sometimes, moment by moment, to be vulnerable and open to what God has for me. God always meets us where we are. And he sends people to meet us there too (people who recommend awesome things like the work of @brenebrown and lots of other things). Thanks to @thatsageblog and @mrthomasandme #morethanaframe #holdersnotfolders
Today's prompt for #morethanaframe is Fear, and how we are confronting it with Bravery. 🌷 My biggest fear is the unknown. I'm a planner, I want to know all possible outcomes for each decision I make. But sometimes there is no way of truly knowing. 🌷 #ConfessionTime Part of the reason I'm not sure if I should have a child is that I don't know if I'll be a good mother. If I can handle a child, a husband, a job, and school. I don't know how the #WoodFurkids will react to a tiny human in our home. All of these unknowns scare me, but knowing that I would have the support of our families no matter what decision we make is such a comfort and with that, and the grace of God, we can do anything 🌷💜
@thatsageblog & @mrthomasandme 's prompt for this weeks #morethanaframe is #fear : I've had and still do have a tremendous amount of #fear and anxiety about my #menieresdisease diagnosis. I have good days & bad ones, the struggle seems constant, a battle between myself and this disease. Though this journey is one I would have never chose for myself I keep trying to find the good in it - by blogging about my experiences I've connected with others diagnosed giving me strength, I've learned my body and mind can endure more than I thought it could, I'm learning to find the good in each day, and to not allow #fear to rule my life. #morethanaframe #sweetcatastropheblog #livingwithmenieres #md #menieres
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This week's #morethanaframe prompt has been a challenge for me so far. When we first decided on it, I had no idea what I would share. Thankfully, God put something on my heart. Something I have always F E A R ed was being abandoned. I feared that people would just leave me; that I would have to do life alone. It's funny to say this, because I'm pretty independent and hard headed, but when it comes down to it, I think that's a coping mechanism. See, I used to hold so tightly to relationships with men that did nothing but break me down. One in particular really solidified I was willing to sacrifice the majority of my self-respect to not feel abandoned. With friends, I just told myself I didn't need them. I could be independent and alone and just "do me." I pushed people away in order to avoid having to experience the possibility that they would abandon me. At the time, I just told myself I was better off without them and their flaws. This MAJORLY changed when I was saved. Jesus taught me that I didn't have to be B R A V E on my own, but I did have to trust him. I had to trust that people would leave, and that was completely out of my control. However, I also had to have faith that He would be enough when that time came. It's funny because years later when I became a believer, God blessed me with my husband. Now, I can't guarantee he will never abandon me because time is temporary and we all leave here at some point, but I can rest in knowing that our time together is precious and that if something bad did happen, it would kill me, but I would still be able to get up every day and know that God is good-- that he is still standing behind me. Now, I can invest myself in community even when it feels hard and lonely and frustrating because I know that God is there. I'm never going to be abandoned. That old F E A R is history and instead I can be B R A V E because of Him.