7.22.2015

Wedding Day "Things" & Planning for Marriage + Meet Kristyn

wedding day things & planning for marriage
I have yet to meet a bride that didn't have one of those "things" at their wedding. It doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing; it might have been a funny thing, a shocking thing, or a great thing. We all have those "things."

My "thing" was my delicate lace dress literally ripping to shreds before our ceremony even started. You heard right. That beautiful wedding dress up there had MASSIVE holes in it. Every time I would walk through the grass it would catch and run (you can even see the string during our first look in our wedding video). Thankfully, my sweet friend Kylee was there to stitch me up every five minutes. And thankfully you can't even tell in photos.

When Cassie decided to have her guests throw lavender during her and her husband's exit from their ceremony, she failed to realize how horribly this would stick in her hair-sprayed hair and wedding dress. That was their "thing."

Kaitlin's "thing" was her aunt setting a table on fire. You win, Kaitlin.

My point here is not to point out the flaws in mine and these ladies' wedding days. Instead, it is to point out that those days still went on. We all still got to marry the men of our dreams, say our vows before God and our closest family and friends, and party the night away.

At the end of the day, these "things" didn't even matter. When I was asked what my "thing" was recently, I had to actually think hard about it. It wasn't something that came to mind quickly. I think that just shows how little of a "thing" it really was to me.



I get upset when I see women putting all of their energy into these weddings where those "things" are just bound to happen. They have this idea of how their perfect day will play out, and forget that life just doesn't always work like that. Some are even devastated when these things do happen. What a silly thing to get upset over.

I think, as women, we need to spend more time preparing for the "things" that will inevitably come up in our marriages, instead of putting so much energy into our weddings. Sure, I had a large wedding, but at the end of the day, none of that mattered to me. I still got to marry my husband. I still got to celebrate with all of my favorite people and dance until my feet hurt. My wedding was still perfect because it was ours, and those "things" didn't change any of that.

Single and engaged ladies, I hope that you will realize the importance in planning for your marriage. Those "things" will happen on your wedding day, because they always do. Instead of stressing about them or trying to prevent them, embrace them. Some day they will make really great stories. And by the end of the day, you will still be married.

What was the "thing" at your wedding?

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Hello! My name is Kristyn and I blog at Chits & Giggles where I write about pretty much anything happening in my life including recipes, blogging tips, and book reviews. I am newly married to my best friend. While our wedding day was anything but perfect, it was perfect for us. As ordinary as my life might seem to be, documenting it on my blog has becoming more than just a hobby. It's become a wonderful community.

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25 comments :

  1. Such a good perspective! I had several things...the wrong cake got delivered, we had an out-of-town groomsmen bring the wrong suit and not realize until right before the ceremony, a family member show up thirty minutes late and bang on the ceremony door to be let in....but it was still the most beautiful day that resulted in the best thing in my life!

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  2. Oh my gosh hahah I'm so sorry, those are horrible! Glad you can look back with such fond memories despite those silly little things!

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  3. Is is terrible that I can't think of anything? Oh wait, I guess my hubby told the groomsmen the wrong time to be there so we didn't get their photos done as soon as planned. I think the thing that I dislike most about my wedding, was actually the pictures from the photographer. She did an amazing job on our engagement photos, but the wedding photos were subpar. I want to re-do my wedding, just to re-do the pictures, lol.

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  4. Haha I think it's a good thing that you can't remember anything- kind of proves the point I'm trying to make :)

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  5. Yes. As a single girl, I've seen attitudes from my friends from bridezilla to the one you are talking about: planning for the marriage. As a person with divorced parents, that is wayyyy more important to me!

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  6. Yes, I LOVE this!!!! So many "things". Hm... "things" at my wedding?? The cupcake people refused to talk to my husband or the wedding planner when they delivered them so I was leaning out a bathroom window upstairs, talking on the phone, while my mom did up my dress so that I could direct them. People who weren't supposed to found my car and trashed it so we had to spray it off before we left and then go through a car wash before heading to our hotel and clean it off again the next day (oreos and whipped cream, never a good combination). I think there were probably a lot more, but I don't really remember them. I could look in my journal and probably laugh at the things that upset me.

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  7. Hahaha, see, they're great stories now?! Cracking up.

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  8. Love this because plan as you might, things happen and you either roll with it or let it ruin your day. In the grand scheme of things they are just little blips. Well, maybe the fire wasn't so little......

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  9. My sage advice is that you need to spend more time planning your marriage than your wedding. A wedding is a day... A marriage is a lifetime.

    The thing at my wedding... Probably when I drank too much sparkling grape juice and almost puked from dancing too much after. Lol... *cue Cassie's giggle at our grape juice*....

    And let me say, Cassie's wedding was perfection, dress tears and all. My husband still talks about it, haha.

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  10. I totally love this post! I photograph a lot of weddings and more often than not, there's a thing. MY 'thing' was that we got married on a lake beach and all the boaters (like at least 6 boats) just sat and watched!! I didn't even think about that being a possibility!

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  11. Yeah "things" definitely happened at mine like forgetting to let the house party go do their little "jobs" because I held them back for photos :)

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  12. So right; none of the "things" matter. The day is a success if you end up married. I had to keep telling myself that as well. My thing was that I used one of those cinnamon wisp wands to freshen my breath just before the ceremony, and it turned my mouth, lips and some of my skin red. My MOH had to do an emergency makeup touch-up with concealer and foundation to hide it.

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  13. Oh the "things". They all happen no matter how much you wish they wouldn't - or plan for them. They will just happen regardless. My big thing was the weather. When you have an outdoor wedding and reception in June, the weather is bound to be difficult. And it was...but it was also perfect and exactly what I could have asked for. Looking back, I remember the weather, but I also remember how wonderful it was to walk down the aisle toward Jeremy and finally marry him.

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  14. I foresee many "things" happening at my wedding just because I am so perfectionistic about such things. I'm already prepping my emotions for that. Hopefully if I mentally go through any horrible thing that could happen, then I'll be okay. This is where pessimism wins (I hope.) I have found that preparing mentally and emotionally and financially for marriage is getting to be one of the fun things to do in the waiting room. Pai & I are reading books and taking online courses about marriage and finances to prepare. Of course we won't be 100% prepared but it makes us feel like we're taking steps towards actually getting married!

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  15. YES YES YES. And right? I died when she told me hahaha

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  16. Haha that's too funny! You just have to let the things roll off your shoulders and stay focused on the purpose of the day!

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  17. EXACTLY AMANDA! HAHAH OH NO! At least it's funny now, right?

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  18. Absolutely! It was the hottest day of the year so far on our wedding day and SO HUMID but I really don't even think about that when I think about my wedding day

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  19. That's great to do. I think mental and emotional preparation is key! SO many people just avoid those things and that's when the little things start to feel like catastrophes!

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  20. Yeah the group of my friends that wanted to help out but there were too many to make them bridesmaids. It's kind of an easy way to recognize other close friends without having a big bridal party.

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  21. http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/144034/house-party :)

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  22. LOLOLOL I just called them "helpers" who knew hahaha

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