My "thing" was my delicate lace dress literally ripping to shreds before our ceremony even started. You heard right. That beautiful wedding dress up there had MASSIVE holes in it. Every time I would walk through the grass it would catch and run (you can even see the string during our first look in our wedding video). Thankfully, my sweet friend Kylee was there to stitch me up every five minutes. And thankfully you can't even tell in photos.
When Cassie decided to have her guests throw lavender during her and her husband's exit from their ceremony, she failed to realize how horribly this would stick in her hair-sprayed hair and wedding dress. That was their "thing."
Kaitlin's "thing" was her aunt setting a table on fire. You win, Kaitlin.
My point here is not to point out the flaws in mine and these ladies' wedding days. Instead, it is to point out that those days still went on. We all still got to marry the men of our dreams, say our vows before God and our closest family and friends, and party the night away.
At the end of the day, these "things" didn't even matter. When I was asked what my "thing" was recently, I had to actually think hard about it. It wasn't something that came to mind quickly. I think that just shows how little of a "thing" it really was to me.
I get upset when I see women putting all of their energy into these weddings where those "things" are just bound to happen. They have this idea of how their perfect day will play out, and forget that life just doesn't always work like that. Some are even devastated when these things do happen. What a silly thing to get upset over.
I think, as women, we need to spend more time preparing for the "things" that will inevitably come up in our marriages, instead of putting so much energy into our weddings. Sure, I had a large wedding, but at the end of the day, none of that mattered to me. I still got to marry my husband. I still got to celebrate with all of my favorite people and dance until my feet hurt. My wedding was still perfect because it was ours, and those "things" didn't change any of that.
Single and engaged ladies, I hope that you will realize the importance in planning for your marriage. Those "things" will happen on your wedding day, because they always do. Instead of stressing about them or trying to prevent them, embrace them. Some day they will make really great stories. And by the end of the day, you will still be married.
What was the "thing" at your wedding?
Cassie's personal favorites from Chits & Giggles: