Contentment is a silly thing. We often times have a hard time feeling it, even when all we need is right in front of us. Thank you to those of you who challenged me this week with your responses to the prompt. It was a prompt I needed more than I thought.
Someone asked me the other day, "How much weight are you trying to lose?" When I responded that I'm not, they were confused, "Then why do you go to the gym all the time and eat all that healthy food?" The answer? Because I'm happy where I am. I like the way I look, I like feeling strong. Some women (or men) may not be content weighing in at a buck fifty, but I am. I work hard for my muscles so, in turn, they can work hard for me. I'm not here to "lose weight," I'm here to gain strength. #morethanaframe
#morethanaframe this week is about contentment. And here's my truth: I absolutely suck at being content. In fact, my biggest struggle right now is lack of contentment in my life season. So instead of inspiring everyone with some verses or tips on how to feel this thing I don't feel, I'm just going to be honest and say I don't feel it. I want to be ahead of this season. And it really sucks. But the thing is, this season doesn't suck. This season lets me go on spontaneous weekend trips to the beach with my husband and get up early to take beautiful pictures of the world I live in. Thankfully my favorite hobby involves documenting seasons of life for myself and others, so here's to having an outlet while I figure out what exactly being content looks like.
Since immigrating to the US, I've been often asked, "So, when do you plan on having kids?" or "You're a housewife? Aren't you bored yet?" Truth is, having kids is within our short-term goals, but probably not in the next 2 years. In case you didn't know, @rolandroan and I were in a long-distance relationship 95% of the time that we're together as a couple. In essence, we spend as much time "dating" now that we're finally living together. My #contentment lies in spending quality time with my husband as if we just got married yesterday. "When you are discontent, you always want more, more, more. Your desire can never be satisfied, but when you practice contentment, you can say to yourself, 'Oh, yes—I already have everything that I really need.'" —Dalai Lama #morethanaframe
This week's #morethanaframe prompt is C O N T E N T M E N T. There's lots of things I'd love to buy to spruce up my home. Pinterest and Instagram are full of photos of things I adore. Contentment, to me, is all about loving what you have and making do. This past weekend I spray painted a dresser that was hidden in my daughter's closet and moved it into our hallway. I decorated it with things from other rooms. Just proved to me that sometimes what we have is enough. Just by making some changes what was once old and plain can be made new again and get a new lease on life. For the record, this pop of emerald that I chose for the dresser is making me pretty content. #greenismynewgold
Again, I'm challenged by #morethanaframe 's prompt of #contentment which, whenever I am at a loss, it's a wakeup call that it's something to think more on and work on too. My first thought was this: "Better is one day in Your courts than a thousand elsewhere" (Psalm 84:10 a) There a bunch of things that calm the anxiety: writing, reading, talking with my favorite people, photography, work (sometimes, ha!), eating #foodasmedicine & so much more. But calming the anxiety or shutting down the comparison game is different than stopping the anxiety in its tracks and stepping off the court of the comparison game completely. That, for me, can only be found when I am realizing that my relationship with God is IT. Period. That relationship is MORE important than anything else in my life and there is where true #contentment is found. So I spend time in the Word and Journaling about what is he teaching me or just talking to him through my writing. And of course, I could do it and should do it more often. More time with Him makes me able to say, "Better is ONE DAY with YOU than a thousand anywhere else." I can say it and mean it. And I am content. No matter where I am in life or where I am living or where I am working or any of the blogging stuff. Thanks @thatsageblog and @mrthomasandme
I grew up with noise. Chatter meant love was in the house. Now, seeing my sisters and brothers make their own chatterbox families I understand how much joy the noise brings to my soul. Call me Contented Connie. || this week's #morethanaframe is exploring contentment. I dare you to find what brings a warm, fuzziness to your soul this week!
Contentment is living so close to outdoor beauty everyday. Contentment is active and not lazy Sunday's with loved ones. Contentment is acknowledging you're not without fault but you're growing to be your best self in every way possible. Contentment is having an amazing tribe to surround yourself with. #morethanaframe
Married life, pregnant life, toddler life, ministry life, has a lot of ups and downs. And crazy hormones aside, it's hard to live life controlled by the Spirit and not by emotions and circumstances. There are days when it's harder to find beauty around me and beauty in myself. I am still figuring a lot of things out, but I'm thankful that I don't depend on my ability to figure things out. I depend on an almighty God who has covered me with enough grace for all the downs and is the author of all my ups. I can always find beauty in that. And as I end this day and start another week, I will dwell in and be thankful for that beauty.
"A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms." It's hard, I think, for most of us to not look at another person's life and wish that some aspect of it belonged to you. Whether it's their car, their hair, their singing voice or their apparently perfect marriage. But we have to remember that God has his own perfect plan for us, that our trials are different from others because WE are different from others. We are unique, we are beautiful, and this is something we should strive to remember. Happy Monday! #mondaymotivation #favoritequote #morethanaframe
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When I think of contentment I think of Hebrews 13:5 "Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, 'I will never leave you nor forsake you.'” Abandonment is something I've struggled with my entire life. The fear of it sometimes consumes me. However, I'm always brought back to this promise. I'm reminded to stop trying to grapple desperately to avoid abandonment because I can be content in Jesus. I'm also reminded I can be content in relationships instead of fearful for how they will end up. I'm so grateful for these people and how they continually love and support me (and my husband). There's no place for needs and wants in God's kingdom because we can be fully content in him always. #morethanaframe
Join us next week for the final week of #morethanaframe! The prompt is WORTH.